My gosh it has been forever since I posted anything on this… but I thought I might pass some useful information on to others who are now in the unfortunate situation I found myself in previously.
- First of all, don’t ever blame yourself… and don’t listen to the cheater when they blame you.
- This can happen to anyone! I recently became aquainted with a woman who is a partner at firm. She is a beautiful lady. Thin, blonde, smart as a whip, and she’s a Partner (so she makes serious bank!) She was married to a soldier for 20 years and they have several kids together. Guess who decided while on depolyment that he didn’t want to be married any more? Yep. Stupid Man.
- You will feel better (eventually) if you know the truth. Finding out the particulars about the infidelity sucks, I’m not going to try and gloss that over. But at some point you WILL feel better knowing exatly what was going on. I certianly have no doubt now, that what I did was the best thing I could have ever done. You won’t want to look back and wonder if you accused them of something wrongly.
- There are tools and people out there that are willing to help you. Just asking a friend to brainstorm with you can help. I had a friend of my ex’s that offered to search public records for me. Another helped me sell his boat when he cut me off financially. You will be surprised how many people will understand that what they are doing is wrong.
- Don’t feel shame about their dirty deed. If they didn’t want anyone to know about the cheating, they shouldn’t have done it in the first place. When dealing with family and friends, I know alot of times we are tempted to keep things to ourselves. We don’t want them to hold a grudge or look at our partner diffrently, but there comes a point where they ahve to attest for what they have done. I personally don’t believe in just shouting it from the rooftops, but if someone asked me point blank what was going on, I would tell them the truth.
Good luck, and God Bless….
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